The Dos And Don'ts Of Getting Back With An Ex

Getting back together with someone you've previously broken up with is tricky business. Questions about whether or not a previously failed relationship will survive this time round can fill your mind with doubt, even before having gotten into an actual relationship again. But just like not all relationships are meant to be, not all breakups are meant to be either. For whatever reason, you might feel like breaking up with a former partner has been a mistake - and you might seek to correct that mistake by getting back together and giving your relationship another chance. If you find yourself in such a place, here are a few basic dos and don'ts you should keep in mind. They could help you make this relationship a better, happier and successful one.

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Do - Talk about what went wrong

The first step in healing and moving forward is being able to talk about and discuss what went wrong. Whether it was the mistakes made by you or your partner, be open about them and take ownership for where you went wrong. Unless you actually have a frank conversation about what led to the fall of your relationship last time, you'll find it difficult to start afresh.

Don't - Dwell on past mistakes

Talking about what went wrong with the aim to find a solution is one thing, holding onto the issue and rubbing it into your partner's face in another. If that's the way you go, the relationship is likely to collapse once again. Once you've had an honest discussion about the issues you faced last time and how to best avoid them, move on. Truly, with all your heart and mind. If you want to give this relationship another chance, it's important to trust your partner and believe that neither of you will repeat the same mistakes again.

Do - Make sure you're in this together

Before you decide to jump back onto a ship that sunk once before, make sure you know that you and your partner are on the same page. You should both be willing to make the same amount of effort and want the relationship to work as much as the other. If either one of you slacks or gets complacent, it could be the end of it. Because you're giving the relationship a second chance, you should be sure that both of you understand what's at stake.

Don't - Rush into things

Take it slow. You might feel the need to rush right back to the way things were, but if you're getting together after a break, treat the relationship like a new one. Rushing back into your old routine as a couple and going back to tactics that seem familiar could lead to the same mistakes being repeated. Start over and get to know each other a little differently this time.