3 Things You Should Never Say To Your Partner

Blurting things out in anger during a fight is easy - undoing the damage your words can cause may not always be. No matter how old the 'sticks and stones' saying goes, words can cut pretty deep. Being sensitive and practising cognisance even in the heat of the moment can save you and your partner a lot of pain. There are certain phrases that you should absolutely avoid using in a relationship in order for it to be a healthy and happy one. It's time to hit delete and erase them from your memory.

1. "He/she would have done this for me"

You know the first step in building a good relationship? Not comparing it to your previous one. Not only does comparing your partner to an ex signify that there is something seriously lacking in your current relationship, but it is also indicative of the fact that you might not completely be over your previous relationship. If you find yourself saying or even wanting to say this phrase often, it's time to rethink your relationship. If you're simply saying it to anger your partner or get to him/her to do something that you want, it's time to rethink weather being in a relationship at this current point in time is the right thing for you.

2. "That's ridiculous"

As a loving and caring partner, it is essential for you to be mindful of how your words and actions can impact your partner. Writing off an idea, a thought or a plan that he/she might have as ridiculous, stupid or simply idiotic because you might not agree with it is, to say the very least, wrong. Even if you can't see eye to eye on an issue, try and be supportive and accepting of his/her point of view. If you know something they don't and think their idea will fail, put your point across gently. There are better ways of telling someone you love that they are wrong than outright rejecting them.

3. "It's all your fault"

Using an accusatory tone or words never really solves a problem. The only thing it does is make an already bad situation worse. So unless it's a situation where it is actually entirely your partner's fault (read: you caught him/her cheating), avoid placing the blame solely on them. Take your time to cool down and try and look at the situation objectively. That's the only way you will be able to understand what went wrong and why.