Mumbai Man Ghosted By Bumble Date. Here's What He Did Next

A Mumbai man, stood up by a Bumble date, turned it into a self-care day. After the woman failed to show up, he treated himself to a solo coffee outing, got a head massage and pedicure, headed to the beach in the evening, watched the sunset and wrapped up his day with ice cream.

In a post on Reddit, he wrote, "For the first time ever, I got stood up by someone on a date. And I wasn't expecting it at all."

The man was on the date after a two-year-long dating hiatus, following a long-term relationship. He said he met someone on Bumble and they were talking for a few weeks, adding things seemed to be going well.

"She's smart, has interesting hobbies, and actually seemed interested in me and had some good deep conversations. I was like wow, this could be the start of something meaningful," he wrote.

Finally, they made plans to meet. He said he dressed up well, picked up a cute sunflower for her and travelled over an hour in the scorching heat to see her. But when he reached the location, she didn't show up. He mentioned they had a conversation before leaving for the date to confirm the timings and until then everything seemed fine.

He wrote, "Then once I reached the spot and waited for half an hour, no response, radio silence. Absolute cinema. Was confused, disappointed and lowkey sad. Was it something I did? Is there something wrong with me? A lot of questions popped up in my head, which made me contemplate my own shortcomings."

He added, "But then I remembered what the Stoics say-nobody has the power to control your emotions. You are responsible for the way you feel at every moment. No matter how bad a situation you are in, you always have a choice, the choice to decide how you react and feel."

So, instead of sulking and going back home, he decided to make the most of his Sunday since he was already out.

He had a nice coffee and read a book in a corner, alone, for the first time in years. He revealed that, coincidentally, the chapter was about trauma, which fit well in the moment. Later, he went to a Crossword bookstore and bought a few books, followed by a few gifts for family and friends.

After that, he decided to visit a salon, and got a fresh haircut, a relaxing head massage and a pedicure. He jokingly said, "Feet have been neglected for a while, getting stood up should be followed up with a pedicure no?" 

Later in the evening, he went to the beach and watched the sunset with stray cats and ended the day with a Baskin Robbins Lotus Biscoff ice cream.

He gave the sunflower, which he got for his date, to a little girl selling balloons. 

Concluding the post, he wrote, "7 hours later, now she responds. I'm obviously not going to converse with her going forward, but I want to ask you guys and girls, what does 'cold feet' before a first date mean? Is this a thing?"

Got stood up, Ghosted by Bumble date after reaching the spot. Decided to turn it into a self-care date
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The post quickly went viral, with many Reddit users suggesting he block her.

One user commented, "You should've just blocked her after she stood you up. As a woman, I've never gotten 'cold feet' on the same day of a planned date. If I had doubts, I'd be upfront about it beforehand or at the very least, show up and say it face to face."

"Kudos to you man! That's a DAY WELL SPENT. She acted on her emotions. You acted on your emotions. You won, she lost," commented another.

A user wrote, "You had a date with yourself in a long time. And that's amazing. How frequently do we get to enjoy a day like this? Your energy will attract your tribe. Stay amazing."

According to a survey by Forbes Health, 41 per cent of respondents said they had ghosted someone, 38 per cent said they had been catfished, and 27 per cent said they had been love bombed.