Why did I lose erection during sexual intercourse with a prostitute?

Question
On my 24th birthday I went to a legal prostitution facility and picked out the best looking girl to have sex. I didn't expect it to last long so I paid for half an hour, which cost me six hundred dollars. I haven't had sex with a woman since I was 16 years old so I wanted more experience before starting a relationship with a girl I like. When the prostitute gave me oral sex it was an instant erection and she asked me if I wanted to come right then. But I wanted to try straight sex with her to learn positions and get better at sex. So I helped her masturbate until she was ready. She used a lot of lube with toys. When she got me ready with oral again, I wasn't as hard as before but good enough to get a condom on. I was shocked at how loose her vagina was and I couldn't get complete erection which made it hard for me to keep my penis inside. I hardly felt anything because she was so loose. My penis isn't that big but it is 5 and a half to 6 inches long when rock hard. We tried several positions and after the third she took the condom off and gave me oral again. She used lots of lube with a hand job but I just couldn't get more than half an erection. I knew I could get really hard if I could have held her head down while she gave me oral but she wouldn't let me. After 28 minutes I finally got pretty hard again almost to the point of an orgasm but the time was up and she wanted another three hundred for another half hour. As I didn't have the money so I just left. I can't stop thinking about what was wrong with me. I found her body so attractive. The sex just seemed really fake and I sort of was turned off by that fact. I am frustrated because I went to her to get sexual confidence and now I can't stop thinking about it when I go to sleep. I know I could have done it right if she wouldn't have used so much lube or if I had tried more sexually appealing positions to me. I can't stop thinking about it. Only if I should have told her to keep on with oral sex when I was rock hard, I would have come. I know that I won't see her again but my pride is hurt from this experience. When I masturbate to porn I get so hard that my penis touches my belly. When I wake up in the morning it is still hard at times. Maybe I am just not sexually attracted to prostitutes and need a woman I love to have sex with. Have you ever heard of this happening before or should I see a doctor? The prostitute asked me whether I was on cocaine but I was not. But I was hooked to crystal meth for 4 years and I would masturbate a lot on it for incredible orgasms. I have been off it for 9 months now. Did this affect anything? I still can masturbate easily in 10 minutes.
Expert Answer
Answered by: DoctorNDTV Team
Body and mind are linked very closely and affect each other. The same holds true about sex. All sexual excitement and associated physical phenomena can disappear in no time if a disturbing thought catches your mind - her loose vagina and associated thoughts, in your case. Add to this a spectator role for the performer - how much hardness, how much erection, plus a worry that time is running out and you have a perfect recipe for a sexual fiasco. Don't take it to heart; everybody, including your studs and casanovas too, is known to fail sometimes. This is not worth fretting over because you always have a next chance. Also remember that sex workers are in this for money and not for you, so no point feeling low. Better to experiment together with a friend.