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How can we satisfy ourselves during sex?
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I am a 22 years old woman and I like sex but lately I have noticed that my sex drive has gone down. My boyfriend and I have different tastes when it comes to what we like. I like foreplay and slower sex, but he likes it rapid. What usually happens is that he makes me orgasm first by going slow like I prefer it, then he goes on me so that he can have an orgasm but unfortunately, he takes too long and it starts to become very painful. I try to hold on until he goes but most of the time I can't take it. He ends up just finishing himself off or not having an orgasm at all. I don't know what to do. Please suggest.
Expert Answer
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Dr Sudhakar KrishnamurtiJul 23, 2008
Andrologist, Microsurgeon & Sexual Medicine Consultant,
Andromeda Andrology Center,
Hyderabad
Andromeda Andrology Center,
Hyderabad
Such situations are best resolved by open communication. You have to tell him exactly what you have said in this e-mail, because he may not know at all that the sexual encounter is unpleasant for you. He probably thinks he is a great lover. It might be an idea for you to not attain orgasm first, but to use a little bit of lubrication (like KY jelly) and start together, from scratch. Then the post-orgasm intercourse period for you will be reduced, and his peno-vaginal thrusting will not seem so protracted and painful.