How to prevent premature ejaculation?

Premature ejaculation is the inability to delay ejaculation till the man wishes or when ejaculation occurs too early in the sexual act to satisfy both partners. The time to reach the stage of ejaculation is subjective and varies form one man to another. Some men may ejaculate immediately after copulation begins while another may not ejaculate even after 10 minutes. Thus, time is not a criterion for ascertaining whether the ejaculation is premature or not; mutual satisfaction is the benchmark against which this condition is measured.

It is more common in younger men who are finding out about sexual activity and sexual relationships and men of all ages after a long period without sex.

Performance anxiety often results in premature or early ejaculation. Talking to your sexual partner about your feelings surely helps. Remember it is a common experience for men and women. Relax more and the problem often goes away.

If your arousal levels are getting too high and you feel the climax is beginning, take a deep breath and think about something else, anything boring if possible. When you are less aroused but maintaining an erection you can then continue.

The squeeze technique - in this method, the partner gently squeezes the tip or base of the penis just before the point of ejaculation thereby "cancelling" the orgasm. This process can be continued until the couple decides mutually to reach the climax.

Desensitising creams and gels are available in the market that reduce the sensitivity of the penis and help men reach climax later. Some men also feel that condoms reduce the sensations and, in addition to providing safer sex, help them last longer.

The couple can also experiment with sexual positions as some positions offer more control than others and may help to delay ejaculation.

A good foreplay is the key to satisfactory intercourse. Stimulate your partner to a state of high arousal before you have your genitals touched, that way ejaculation and orgasm can be achieved about the same time.

Practice different methods by yourself. Getting to know your feelings and sensations gives you the chance to gain confidence.

Overcoming premature ejaculation can take a bit of time. Practice is the key. If you find that things are not improving, consult a sex therapist.